What if the people and events that we encountered throughout our lives were divine arrangements tailored specifically for us, to shape us into the person we are destined to become??
Imagine if we approached life through that perspective; life would perpetually look rich—in any—and all—circumstances. The more we can welcome, without judgment, all conditions, the faster we will be empowered over all difficulties.
This is where I have come through my story, Owning Patricia, and I invite you to own this way of being in your life and fully Own your Name.
Advice from Author Patricia Bonelli, and her new memoir, Owning Patricia: A Story of Breaking Free. Here are 5 tips that anyone can utilize to fully embrace who they are, no matter what their past or present looks like.
Creating an Authentic Life: 5 Key Steps to Living Life on Your Own Terms.
1) MAKE PEACE WITH THE PAST;
I believe we are all born with the ability to turn our difficulties into opportunities. The raw experiences of my earlier life gave me qualities of resourcefulness, confidence, and sharpened my instincts. In owning all of it, I value the experiences, good and not-so-good, as all blessings which ultimately created me, the person I am today. Without shame, I fully own my name, who I was, and who I am today.
2) NOTICE HOW YOU PLAY IT SMALL, WHEN YOUR DREAM IS BIG;
Most of us can relate to that scared, little child inside that wants to be safe. I learned to be safe by becoming a warrior. Dreaming big was often how I survived in the midst of a harsh reality. However, I had a limited skill set to achieve those dreams.
3) BE AUTHENTIC WITH EVERYONE;
Shame comes from keeping secrets. I learned that I would never again go into another situation shameful and trying to hide my past. I was proud of what I learned in my past because it was a resource that gave me skills in my job of law enforcement to do a job well with empathy, understanding and tough love at the forefront.
4) CELEBRATE YOUR UNIQUENESS;
I forgave myself and others for the events I encountered early in life. I became comfortable with my own pain. Today, I can comfortably experience the pain of other people’s ridicule, without shutting down or needing to fix it. In working with people stuck in dark places, I am comfortable exploring with them those circumstances that infused their sense of limitation, because I had been there.
5) PREPARE FOR AUTHENTIC BACKLASH;
Some people who are uncomfortable being authentic themselves will be your strongest critics when you step up to live 100% on your terms…you will push their buttons and the reactions may not be pretty. Know that you might lose false friendships along the way to owning your power as only you can–but you will gain like-minded travelers who value the real you.
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